There is such a thing as tact. It works wonders sometimes, you know? I was able to explain to her the dangers related to Stein and provided her with alternatives without treating her like she was incompetent.
Because it's a good way to drive the people you care about away? Not everyone takes that kind of thing well. Different approaches for different people.
You're a businessman. I doubt you handle all your clients the same way, whether it's for any legitimate business or the black market things. You don't have to be less determined with them, but tailor the message, mate.
Did you tell her part of the reason you were getting frustrated is because you care about her? That can make a big difference on how people perceive things. Even if it should be understood, just saying it can mean a lot. I care about Sherlock, and I tell him that when I have to yell at him for being an idiot.
[John gives it a bit before responding. And what do you know? Mr. Solomons has more to say.]
If you want to keep on with her, learn to deal with her, and what she might be willing to tolerate. You're gentler with the kids. I know you are. Maybe extend a bit of that to her. She's not like Fiona; she didn't grow up on Pandora.
She was willing to learn when I pitched it as you worrying about her safety and what Stein might do to her because of everything else he's done to other people that you know or care about. On top of this being outside your realm of experience.
You're a little bit of a control freak, Alfie. Comes with the territory and your background. That's important for her to know, as well. So when you're faced with situations out of your control, she knows that's part of what's getting you 'frustrated' and not just her.
Maybe you shouldn't, but life's not fair, and this place is especially not fair. Sometimes you've got to do things that seem ridiculous to you to make something work.
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There is such a thing as tact. It works wonders sometimes, you know? I was able to explain to her the dangers related to Stein and provided her with alternatives without treating her like she was incompetent.
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You like this woman, yeah? At least give her a little more leeway than you would others.
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You're a businessman. I doubt you handle all your clients the same way, whether it's for any legitimate business or the black market things. You don't have to be less determined with them, but tailor the message, mate.
Did you tell her part of the reason you were getting frustrated is because you care about her? That can make a big difference on how people perceive things. Even if it should be understood, just saying it can mean a lot. I care about Sherlock, and I tell him that when I have to yell at him for being an idiot.
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[Yup, that's all he gets.
... At first, anyway. Part two of the message comes a few minutes later.]
I don't treat all my clients the same. No. But I don't treat everybody like my clients, and I've never done well with thin-skinned people.
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If you want to keep on with her, learn to deal with her, and what she might be willing to tolerate. You're gentler with the kids. I know you are. Maybe extend a bit of that to her. She's not like Fiona; she didn't grow up on Pandora.
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You're a little bit of a control freak, Alfie. Comes with the territory and your background. That's important for her to know, as well. So when you're faced with situations out of your control, she knows that's part of what's getting you 'frustrated' and not just her.
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[Maybe he's projecting a bit. Just a tiny bit.]
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And mine. I'd like to see you a bit happier, you git.
[He means it lovingly.]
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[Which... says a lot about how not patient he is with other people.]
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[The Alfie Solomons Order of Patience goes men -> women -> kids.]
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Give her a bit more when you can. That's all I'm asking, mate.
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